找個等你先走一步的男人
2016年12月09日
小靜大學畢業後到一家外企找了份活兒，雖然收入高，但特別累。每天下班後回到單身宿舍裏，就總想能有個人陪著說說話。同事似乎看穿了她的心事，便給她介紹了好幾個男朋友。不知怎迪士尼美語 好唔好麼的，她竟然一個也沒有看上。不是那些男孩子長得不帥氣，也不是那些男孩子沒有足夠令女孩子心動的好工作和高薪水，而是她沒能如願地找到一個能讓她先走一步的人……
小靜母親大學畢業，教高中，父親中師畢業，教初中。動亂年代他們倆從同一個城市分配到小小的縣城裏的同一所學校，於是，友誼和感情便很快在彼此的關愛與呵護中萌生了……不過，那年頭，有大學文憑的女孩子去找一個只有中師文憑的男孩子，在常人的目光裏，是很難被接受的。因此，斷斷續續地往來了一兩年，都沒能最終將關係確定下來。然而，一件意外的事發生了。小靜的母親是這樣告訴小靜的：“那天晚上，我帶著學生去看電影，一個學生中途願景村 退款肚子疼，我便送那學生去醫院。你爸得到消息後也趕到醫院裏來幫我。那學生患急性闌尾炎，需動手術。通知家長，又把學生送進手術室……一切忙完，已是深夜。你爸將我送到我住的宿舍樓下，躑躅著不肯再走了。我叫你爸上樓到我房間裏坐一坐，你爸只一個勁兒地推說要備課改作業。我猜想你爸是出於自卑，不肯主動向我示愛，便慍怒地責備他‘既不肯進屋去坐一坐，那你還傻呆著幹啥？’你猜你爸怎麼回答我的？‘我在等你先走一步呀！’聽了你爸的話，我心頭一熱，突然覺得你爸是值得我依靠和信賴的一個男人，於是，我果斷地做出決定，嫁給了你爸。後來的事實證明，我的選擇探索四十 呃人是正確的！”
是的，男人和你分別時，不論是暫時的還是長時間的，能讓你先走一步，便是把所有的愛放在你的背影上，讓你從他的眷戀裏從容地消逝。每走出一步，你都會坦然而欣慰地想到，身後有一雙溫熱的目光注視著你，陪伴著你，所以，哪怕你走進的將是狹長的巷道，或者陰森的密林，你都不會孤獨，不會畏懼……然而，小靜遇著的男孩兒卻總是要麼行色匆匆說過“再見”便揚長而去；要麼心不在焉道過“再會”便不見了蹤影。
小靜母親大學畢業，教高中，父親中師畢業，教初中。動亂年代他們倆從同一個城市分配到小小的縣城裏的同一所學校，於是，友誼和感情便很快在彼此的關愛與呵護中萌生了……不過，那年頭，有大學文憑的女孩子去找一個只有中師文憑的男孩子，在常人的目光裏，是很難被接受的。因此，斷斷續續地往來了一兩年，都沒能最終將關係確定下來。然而，一件意外的事發生了。小靜的母親是這樣告訴小靜的：“那天晚上，我帶著學生去看電影，一個學生中途願景村 退款肚子疼，我便送那學生去醫院。你爸得到消息後也趕到醫院裏來幫我。那學生患急性闌尾炎，需動手術。通知家長，又把學生送進手術室……一切忙完，已是深夜。你爸將我送到我住的宿舍樓下，躑躅著不肯再走了。我叫你爸上樓到我房間裏坐一坐，你爸只一個勁兒地推說要備課改作業。我猜想你爸是出於自卑，不肯主動向我示愛，便慍怒地責備他‘既不肯進屋去坐一坐，那你還傻呆著幹啥？’你猜你爸怎麼回答我的？‘我在等你先走一步呀！’聽了你爸的話，我心頭一熱，突然覺得你爸是值得我依靠和信賴的一個男人，於是，我果斷地做出決定，嫁給了你爸。後來的事實證明，我的選擇探索四十 呃人是正確的！”
是的，男人和你分別時，不論是暫時的還是長時間的，能讓你先走一步，便是把所有的愛放在你的背影上，讓你從他的眷戀裏從容地消逝。每走出一步，你都會坦然而欣慰地想到，身後有一雙溫熱的目光注視著你，陪伴著你，所以，哪怕你走進的將是狹長的巷道，或者陰森的密林，你都不會孤獨，不會畏懼……然而，小靜遇著的男孩兒卻總是要麼行色匆匆說過“再見”便揚長而去；要麼心不在焉道過“再會”便不見了蹤影。
Mastering the Unseen Forces That Shape Our Destiny
2016年08月03日
The Internal Dialogue: You and Your Thoughts are Different From One Another
What Pam is experiencing in the example above is her internal Dream beauty pro hard sell dialogue masquerading as thoughts in her mind. This particular conversation is between a harsh critical voice and her self doubt. And like Pam, all of us have some variation of this internal struggle, whether we like to acknowledge it or not. The key is whether we identify with it as who we are.
If you have ever been conflicted about something and were of two minds about it, you have experienced the internal dialogue first hand. Most of us simply pay it no mind and believe that “it is only our thoughts running through our mind”. However, not being aware of it or not understanding it does not stop the force it exerts over your life. It drives our lives. It is like driving on a freeway while looking through binoculars. You are at the mercy of chance to see and understand the world you are attempting to negotiate.
The Internal Dialogue Goes Underground
Most of us are aware of this internal dialogue, but we push it away (much like Pam in the example above). We never mention it to others because of what they might think. This is our loss. Gaining a window into this internal dialogue is essential if we want to discover a deeper purpose, meaning, and joy for our lives. As we learn to observe the voices that lie beneath our thoughts, the transformation of body, mind, and Spirit becomes possible. Learning about these voices within the self is crucial for creating lasting transformation.
There is a lot at stake in this inner struggle going on within the internal dialogue. Staying mindless keeps Pam (and us) aimlessly drifting in the currents of life. Things happen repetitively that we do not understand. What is revealed in Pam’s internal dialogue is that the self is composed of a number of voices – some good, some bad. Let us explore this further.
Like Pam, many of us don’t even realize that an internal dialogue is happening in our mind. This is what I call “mindlessness”. To be blind to the internal dialogue of the mind is to be swept along on the unseen currents of life. Those who are swept along are blind to it – and to its power. Others hear an almost inaudible whisper that is moving too fast to comprehend. Still others hear the internal dialogue and it makes them uncomfortable and they do not understand it. So they avoid listening to it, and this limits their lives.
The Internal Dialogue Creates the Box of Our Comfort Zone
Instead they will distract themselves so that they are not aware of Dream beauty pro hard sell it. They busy themselves with work, conquest, exercise, drugs, sex, the latest toy, or whatever is necessary to distance themselves from the discomfort of getting out of their comfort zone. Others come to live in fear of the negative assessment machine in their mind and shrink their lives into a comfort zone so that they will not be noticed. The comfort zone locks them into familiar, habitual ways and they get stuck in old repeating patterns. This is called a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Very few people learn how to observe the internal dialogue, question it, and explore the design of its nature. It is through the exploration of these voices within the mind that we set ourselves free of their control over our lives and tap into the potential that lies buried within us. There are some negative aspects of the self that have to be observed and confronted, and there are some powerful parts of the self that we need to awaken. It is in awakening these Dream beauty pro hard sell empowering parts of the self that we change the historical script of our life and find new life.
We have to become aware of the war being waged in our minds. Once we grasp that thinking is simply a biological activity, a powerful question can surface – who, or what, is in control of the perception and thinking apparatus of our mind? The answer will surprise you. Thought is important, but it is the voice (or aspect of the self) that controls the thought that keeps us from becoming who we were born to be and transforming the potential of our lives.
What Pam is experiencing in the example above is her internal Dream beauty pro hard sell dialogue masquerading as thoughts in her mind. This particular conversation is between a harsh critical voice and her self doubt. And like Pam, all of us have some variation of this internal struggle, whether we like to acknowledge it or not. The key is whether we identify with it as who we are.
If you have ever been conflicted about something and were of two minds about it, you have experienced the internal dialogue first hand. Most of us simply pay it no mind and believe that “it is only our thoughts running through our mind”. However, not being aware of it or not understanding it does not stop the force it exerts over your life. It drives our lives. It is like driving on a freeway while looking through binoculars. You are at the mercy of chance to see and understand the world you are attempting to negotiate.
The Internal Dialogue Goes Underground
Most of us are aware of this internal dialogue, but we push it away (much like Pam in the example above). We never mention it to others because of what they might think. This is our loss. Gaining a window into this internal dialogue is essential if we want to discover a deeper purpose, meaning, and joy for our lives. As we learn to observe the voices that lie beneath our thoughts, the transformation of body, mind, and Spirit becomes possible. Learning about these voices within the self is crucial for creating lasting transformation.
There is a lot at stake in this inner struggle going on within the internal dialogue. Staying mindless keeps Pam (and us) aimlessly drifting in the currents of life. Things happen repetitively that we do not understand. What is revealed in Pam’s internal dialogue is that the self is composed of a number of voices – some good, some bad. Let us explore this further.
Like Pam, many of us don’t even realize that an internal dialogue is happening in our mind. This is what I call “mindlessness”. To be blind to the internal dialogue of the mind is to be swept along on the unseen currents of life. Those who are swept along are blind to it – and to its power. Others hear an almost inaudible whisper that is moving too fast to comprehend. Still others hear the internal dialogue and it makes them uncomfortable and they do not understand it. So they avoid listening to it, and this limits their lives.
The Internal Dialogue Creates the Box of Our Comfort Zone
Instead they will distract themselves so that they are not aware of Dream beauty pro hard sell it. They busy themselves with work, conquest, exercise, drugs, sex, the latest toy, or whatever is necessary to distance themselves from the discomfort of getting out of their comfort zone. Others come to live in fear of the negative assessment machine in their mind and shrink their lives into a comfort zone so that they will not be noticed. The comfort zone locks them into familiar, habitual ways and they get stuck in old repeating patterns. This is called a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Very few people learn how to observe the internal dialogue, question it, and explore the design of its nature. It is through the exploration of these voices within the mind that we set ourselves free of their control over our lives and tap into the potential that lies buried within us. There are some negative aspects of the self that have to be observed and confronted, and there are some powerful parts of the self that we need to awaken. It is in awakening these Dream beauty pro hard sell empowering parts of the self that we change the historical script of our life and find new life.
We have to become aware of the war being waged in our minds. Once we grasp that thinking is simply a biological activity, a powerful question can surface – who, or what, is in control of the perception and thinking apparatus of our mind? The answer will surprise you. Thought is important, but it is the voice (or aspect of the self) that controls the thought that keeps us from becoming who we were born to be and transforming the potential of our lives.
7 Great Careers That Don’t Feel Like Job
2016年08月01日
1. Chef
If you are fond of cooking and baking, you might want to become a baker or a chef. When I cook at home, I tell my husband that it will not take long, but I usually end up taking more than 3 hours. The great thing is that it doesn’t feel like it and I’m not tired. You may say there’s a difference between cooking for a family and cooking for clients, but if you really enjoy cooking, you will like your job.
2. Designer
Whether you love product design or interior design, you might want to consider working as a designer. When somebody asks for sketches or redecorations, you’ll deliver. However, keep in mind that being a designer call for teamwork and creativity. If you’re ready to use you creativity daily, this job might be perfect for you.
3. Writer
If you like writing, why not try to work as a writer? When you’re writing about something interesting, time flies by and you don’t feel like you work hard every day. Yes, writing can be hard at times, especially when you feel down and you have a lot of problems to solve. But when you have plenty of unique ideas, this career is awesome.
4. Personal shopper
If you have an eye for style, like to shop and help others, then consider working as a personal shopper. It’s better to decide first, what it is that you love to shop for, because if you are going to shop for the things you don’t like, this job might be a real disaster.
5. Party or wedding planner
This is one of the best careers that don’t feel like job. If you are amazingly creative, you love to plan parties or weddings, you might want to consider working as a party or wedding planner. I personally like to plan parties. I love to set the theme of the party, shop for unique decorations, and find those tiny touches to make the party super fun. Parties Unique Beauty
are great, but if you want to plan something bigger and more memorable, being a wedding planner is a perfect career for you.
6. Babysitter or teacher
If you enjoy spending time with kids, being a babysitter or a teacher is a great choice. Many people think that being a teacher is one of the easiest jobs, but it’s actually a hard work so you should have a lot of patience, good knowledge and you should absolutely love children.
7. Work in social media
Nowadays many young people want to work in social media and it’s one of the best careers that don’t feel like job. If you don’t want to be a software engineer you might want to study analytics and conduct keyword research at a social media company. This job is interesting and fun and you might make a lot of money.
When you have a job you like, your life is much easier and happier, and your stress levels are really low. Plus, if you eat healthy and exercise every day, you might live much longer. People who hate their jobs tend to be more depressed and unhappy. So, make sure you choose a career that doesn’t feel like work. Do you like your job? Do you have anything to add to this list?
If you are fond of cooking and baking, you might want to become a baker or a chef. When I cook at home, I tell my husband that it will not take long, but I usually end up taking more than 3 hours. The great thing is that it doesn’t feel like it and I’m not tired. You may say there’s a difference between cooking for a family and cooking for clients, but if you really enjoy cooking, you will like your job.
2. Designer
Whether you love product design or interior design, you might want to consider working as a designer. When somebody asks for sketches or redecorations, you’ll deliver. However, keep in mind that being a designer call for teamwork and creativity. If you’re ready to use you creativity daily, this job might be perfect for you.
3. Writer
If you like writing, why not try to work as a writer? When you’re writing about something interesting, time flies by and you don’t feel like you work hard every day. Yes, writing can be hard at times, especially when you feel down and you have a lot of problems to solve. But when you have plenty of unique ideas, this career is awesome.
4. Personal shopper
If you have an eye for style, like to shop and help others, then consider working as a personal shopper. It’s better to decide first, what it is that you love to shop for, because if you are going to shop for the things you don’t like, this job might be a real disaster.
5. Party or wedding planner
This is one of the best careers that don’t feel like job. If you are amazingly creative, you love to plan parties or weddings, you might want to consider working as a party or wedding planner. I personally like to plan parties. I love to set the theme of the party, shop for unique decorations, and find those tiny touches to make the party super fun. Parties Unique Beauty
are great, but if you want to plan something bigger and more memorable, being a wedding planner is a perfect career for you.
6. Babysitter or teacher
If you enjoy spending time with kids, being a babysitter or a teacher is a great choice. Many people think that being a teacher is one of the easiest jobs, but it’s actually a hard work so you should have a lot of patience, good knowledge and you should absolutely love children.
7. Work in social media
Nowadays many young people want to work in social media and it’s one of the best careers that don’t feel like job. If you don’t want to be a software engineer you might want to study analytics and conduct keyword research at a social media company. This job is interesting and fun and you might make a lot of money.
When you have a job you like, your life is much easier and happier, and your stress levels are really low. Plus, if you eat healthy and exercise every day, you might live much longer. People who hate their jobs tend to be more depressed and unhappy. So, make sure you choose a career that doesn’t feel like work. Do you like your job? Do you have anything to add to this list?
